PPCN, FIRST PRESENTATION

“A Re-Vision for Presbytery’s Pastoral Care-Giving”

In my early years as a teacher of and consultant to church organizations, one research report from the National Training Labs (NTL) that had a great impact on me was a study of what happened to people who returned to their jobs after their two-week experiences in “sensitivity training”. The report showed that within six weeks back on the job, these people had un-learned, ‘washed out’, or ‘canned’ their interpersonal sensitivity, returning (or regressing) to how they had behaved on the job before their training. They had not sustained new ways they had learned of relating and communicating with others because the work culture into which they had been re-submerged was simply too influential to be transformed. The conclusion of these studies was that unless/until the culture at their places of work was transformed, their new behaviors would not be sustained.

As I reflected on the many years of efforts that presbyteries have invested in pastor-ing their pastors, I see the same pattern. Pastors have retreats, presbyters have special training events, and church officers go to special workshops where they learn new information, new perspectives, greater self-awareness, and make new resolutions – only to go back to work at home and within weeks, revert to their former mind-sets, attitudes, and habits of operating and relating.

Therefore, I welcome the title given me for my presentations, “TRANSFORMING PRESBYTERIES INTO CARING COMMUNITIES”, because it seems to infer my own prejudice: that all forms of pastoral care that heal and transform individuals are rarely sustained without the transformation of the cultures and contexts of the church bodies where they work. Unless the cultures of congregations (or of presbyteries) are changed, professional gatherings become little more than “time-outs” for short-lived transformations of persons involved. Until the norms and ritual behaviors of congregations-as-a-whole afford pastoral care-giving, pastoral care is reduced to matters of short-term rescuing or “fixes”, rather than long-term transformation or healing. At least, our theme’s focus on presbyteries as church bodies seems to be grappling with the right variable, for my money.

I also welcome this focus on transforming presbyteries because it recognizes that communal dynamics in church bodies are as gracefully healing and/or as toxically wounding as one-on-one forms of pastoral care-giving. The insights of family systems theory –particularly Edwin Friedman’s Generation to Generation, Carl Whitaker’s The Family Crucible, and Peter Steinke’s How Your Church Family Works -- convince me that family change is more influential on individuals than individual change on families. Hence there has been a considerable shift of focus from understanding pastoral counseling as one-on-one interactions between counselor and client to one of changing the norms, rituals, and emotional climate of congregations to make them environments of healing for individuals.

This morning I want to build on the grace-founded community of a presbytery some re-framing perspectives on that presbytery’s pastoral care-giving. My primary and focusing reframe is to see and practice presbytery care-giving as much in being steward of pastoral relationships as being healer of pastors’ persons. When one focuses on pastoral relationships one examines the interactions and interdependencies between a pastor and a congregation so that the well-being of neither party is pursued apart from the well-being of the other. There are a number of reframes here:

• Pastoral relationships are between individuals (pastors) and communities, not individual church leaders or governing bodies
• The communal partner in a pastoral relationship cannot be known other than by its self-discovery, self-consciousness, and self-responsibility through conversation by its members about itself
• Like newly married spouses who need to building a marriage following their wedding, newly installed parties in a pastoral relationship need to build a partnership following their installation
• Finally, the purpose and goal of pastoral care-giving of pastoral relationships is the reciprocating practice of Christ’s ministry rather than simply self-fulfillment or wholeness.

First, I want to remind you of what typically occurs when presbyteries offer pastoral care to pastors and congregations, usually abandoning pastoral relationships until they become wounding and conflicted, while focusing separately on pastors and congregations apart from one another. Then, I want to propose how presbyteries might integrate their pastoral care-giving to congregations and pastors simultaneously by guiding parties’ attention, consciousness, and faithfulness in building their pastoral relationship with “social capital” (Bowling Alone).

I. WHAT HAPPENS WHEN PRESBYTERIES PURSUE PASTORAL CARE GIVING OF PASTORS AND CONGREGATION SEPARATELY

A. Pastoral partnering between pastors and individual congregation members generate often macerating emotional and political triangles between pastor and contesting congregation leaders

B. Pastors and congregation members lose their original sense of practicing ministry together as they increasing focus on controlling the congregation, either together or competitively.

C. Congregations as the second party to pastoral relationships become nascent, still-born players.

D. Pastors pursue secularizing professional models of ministry as “careers in providing religious services” rather than callings to lead congregations in practicing ministry.

E. Because partnerships are not build, difference in goals and needs between pastors and diverse members of the congregation ferment into power-struggles to change and control each other until one “wins” at the expense of the other or, more commonly, they “split” having lost trust in the other and faith in God. Ministry becomes a nightmare of seeking to satisfy or appease bill-paying religious consumers.

II. WHAT MIGHT HAPPEN IF PRESBYTERIES SEEK PASTORAL CARE-GIVING TO PASTORS AND CONGREGATIONS SIMULTANEOUSLY BY GIVING CARE TO THEIR PASTORAL RELATIONSHIPS

A. kairos time for presbytery’s initiating communication -

6 to 12 months after installations; at the seventh year of pastorate; or a year or so before impending retirements

B. Guidance through Session of the formation of a “congregational team” as the second party to the pastoral relationship, which congregational team is to give voice to the heart and mind of the congregation-as-a-whole and to engage all congregation members in response to refining their articulation of that congregational heart and mind.

The formation of this short-lived team replaces the emotional and power triangles between pastors and two or more congregational leaders (or constituents) that arise when there is no voice for the congregation-as- a-whole.

C. Leadership of Pastor Team and Congregation Team separately of surfacing their respective characters for ministry before differences between them become power struggles that subvert or rupture trust and accountability in pastoral relationships

D. Building collaboration in shared ministries of congregations AND pastors,

as “a priesthood of all believers”

Conclusion

These ideas are fairly far-reaching – even sounding unrealistically ‘egg-headed’ reframes of the way presbyteries operate these days in pastoral care-giving. They require significant changes in presbytery structure and presbytery language. I will talk about5 each of these sets of changes in my third and final presentations. As far-reaching and seemingly impossible as these changes may appear, I am convinced that the level of suffering, frustration, and demoralization rampant in pastoral relationships increasingly demands that we attempt them. In this way, this could not be a worse time for transforming presbytery care-giving; but in another way, this could not be a more urgent time for attempting far-reaching transformations of presbytery care-giving.